Thursday, February 18, 2016

Rape Is A Rite Of Passage

Rape is a rite of passage, now,
for boys
just like the girls.
Almost a kind of privilege, now
a welcome to a world

gone viral and sick.
Selfie stick
it in
again and again.

Wonder what he did -
pretty middle school mouth -
must have been

asking for it.


Note - In the last month or so, my community has been rocked by several incidents of older teenage boys sexually assaulting younger, weaker boys.  Of course, everyone is horrified, and no one questions that these assaults were exercises in domination and shaming.  There are no whispers of what the younger boys were wearing or what they might have done to welcome assault . . . but there would be if the victims had been girls.

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23 comments:

Jim said...

Bad news, MZee. Good write, hang it out there as that may create more awareness.
Rape isn't new just to the recent generation, years and years ago, there was high school jokes, rumors, and fears, both sexes. I wasn't involved personally, than Goodness.
Typical joke was, "a red neck virgin is a girl that can run faster than her brothers." Sad then and now, I think we just hear more since modern communication.
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Sherry Blue Sky said...

You lift the veil above a whisper to the enraged shout that it should be. You have no idea how close to home this poem is for me right now. It is a mess out there. You are right about what they say about girl victims. Right now we have a radio superstar in court for sexual assaults on 50 women and it is the women who are on trial for their reputations. Sigh.

Sylvia K said...

Sad, painful times for so many and there seems to be no answer as to why now??? Why ever??? Thank you for your words and wisdom. I hope you have a good weekend!

Magaly Guerrero said...

The double standards, when it comes to rape, are shocking and infuriating. The cynical disgust that rings in your poem illustrates this very well.

Kerry O'Connor said...

Such a horrifying trend! I was having a conversation today about how we raise girls to be aware of possible sexual abuse and attack, but there is still a misconception of boys being exempt from rape. It is vital that they are just as prepared for the worst, and certainly what they are wearing is the least of their worries.

Cie Cheesemeister said...

Absolutely, it is terrifying.
I was victimized as a very young child, and sexually assaulted twice as an adult. I knew both of my assailants.
I didn't realize until I was older how many times I was actually victimized when I was in my teens, being groped by male classmates, for instance. There was one guy who was particularly terrible. I finally wheeled around and kicked him where it counts on one occasion when he decided to grab my breasts. He doubled over and gasped that I was being childish. I told him I would become downright infantile if he ever touched me again. He never did.
Back then, I thought it was "boys will be boys." Now I realize that this should not be par for the course. No one should have to put up with that shit, and no-one should think doing that shit is their deity-given right.
Most of my adolescent sexual experiences were coercive. I was brought up to believe that girls should be little ladies who didn't raise their voices. I had terrible self-esteem and didn't think I had the right to say no.
Overall, sex has not been a positive thing for me.

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Marion said...

As the relative of a man who was brutally raped as a young teen (and friends with another), I can tell you that it ruined their lives. My friend later committed suicide. A man/boy raped is still a human being viciously violated. Imagine a stranger doing this to your son/brother/husband at puberty. Rape should not be quantified as male vs. female. Rape is rape. Period.

"Male-on-male rape is heavily stigmatized. According to psychologist Dr. Sarah Crome, fewer than 1 in 10 male-male rapes are reported. As a group, male rape victims reported a lack of services and support, and legal systems are often ill-equipped to deal with this type of crime. The rape of men by men has been documented as a weapon of terror in warfare (see also War rape). In the case of the Syrian Civil War (2011–present), the male detainees experienced sexual abuse like being forced to sit on a broken glass bottle, getting their genitals tied to a heavy bag of water, or being forced to watch the rape of another detainee by the officials." ~from Wikipedia

I don't know the answer, but we do need to educate our daughters and our sons of the cruel, violent parts of this world and for them to be aware.

Outlawyer said...

That is horrible. Rape atrocious in all forms. So mean mean mean. The poem is powerful of course but the content so awful. K.

rhymeswithbug.com said...

this just punches you in the heart. sad, sad circumstances

Fireblossom said...

It's a wonderful world.

Sioux said...

MZ--And what was the 79-year old lady wearing when SHE got raped? What was the two-year old wearing and what kind of tantalizing behavior was she engaging in when SHE got raped?

How did THEY ask for it?

I'm with Shay. It's a wonderful world.

De said...

I have a daughter, and a son, both young teens. The world terrifies me.

Vandana Sharma said...

These things are around everywhere now and the world really needs to look whats wrong.

Helen said...

My stomach turns at the thought of anyone ~ man, woman, child ~ suffering this kind of abuse. From something so hideous you've created an extremely thought provoking work of art.

Bekkie Sanchez said...

If it had been girls so true! Boys assaulting other boys has brought a horrible practice, bullying, to new heights!! It's disgusting human behavior and it depresses me to think it's come to this. I hate to say it but I'm getting a thick skin when hearing about these new atrocities that we do to each other filing it under "what next?" A sound write!

brudberg said...

I have a sense that this has been going on much longer than we dare to think... But rape is never anything else than domination and power... There is always a difference between how much is reported vs the real number. Myself I was never raped, but sexually harassed by an older man in a swimming hall... it took me years to be able to go back into the pool...

Carol Campbell said...

This is one of the worse problems of our times! You have written of it very well!

kaykuala said...

The sign of times! This is just atrocious! Yesm no sexy clothes as excuses. Deplorable, but it must be arrested before it gets worse!

Hank

Gillena Cox said...

Bullying in any form is atrocious. A very candid write

Much love...

Brendan MacOdrum said...

The literally friggen selfie stick -- maybe unchecked aggression an affect of narcissism; boys tear the wings off flies and younger boys and girls. The power inside greed of endless mother's milk. Permission to regress to that old savagery comes from lack of initiation, I think. Anyway, rocks like a roundhouse right.

Other Mary said...

Yeah, mission accomplished on that prompt.

Susie Clevenger said...

This is so painful. Rape is horror whether it happens to male of female, but with females there is that underlying assumption it is always her fault.

grapeling said...

my sons both wrestled (younger still does) and we talked about that one incident.

what Shay said, again... ~